Both women and sex experts have been harping on the ability of females to have multiple orgasms while men have been boasting their ability to climax every time, an achievement that is out of reach for 20 percent of women (and feat to which Gary Shandling says, “I’ll believe it when I see it.”). Sexuality is an ongoing discovery, and the one that you can make right now is that it is also possible for men to have multiple orgasms. It’s not easy, but if you follow these guidelines you’ll not only last longer and be a better lover, but you may just find yourself skipping down Orgasm Avenue.

First and most importantly you must find a way to master your sexual energy. The best way to do this is to relax. This will help you last longer during sex and also control the timing of climax. Relaxation is really key here because tension blocks your blood flow and the flow of your orgasmic energy. When you’re relaxed you can savor the sensations of every moment instead of rushing to the endpoint. Stop thinking about sex, because this is when self-doubt and anxiety can creep in and cause unwanted tension. Instead, get in the mindset of feeling sex.

Pace yourself. So, now that you’re relaxed it’s time not to focus on the orgasm but on pleasure, that way you won’t be tempted to race to the finish line. Just slow down and enjoy, but without trying to control your arousal. Focusing on pleasure instead of the climax will also help you maintain a high level of arousal without having an orgasm.

Energy circulation is also an important concept to realize. Understanding the experience that happens during sex will help you achieve a full body orgasm. A vital part of attaining this intense orgasm is allowing your energy to spread throughout your body and away from your genitals. This will not only feel amazing, but will make you last much longer. Women are always saying how they love sensitive men, so imagine if you could move that energy to your heart, what a mind blowing experience it will be for both of you.

When you’re nearing climax, ride the wave of it. When your pleasure amps up and is about to reach a fever pitch, one way to achieve multi orgasms is to go slow and just let the energy wash over you. Then when you’re finally riding the orgasmic wave, you may experience small, explosive orgasms before you reach the final big O.